For the Man Who One Day Holds My Heart

There are only a very few tribes I have encountered
where the married stay together through thick and thin.
Otherwise, in most tribes, one changes 180 degrees
esp. if they marry too young, or parenting is not among their
skillsets. Pity the children most in those families.
The children who have a parent who is not steadfast
suffer for a long time. Best to choose a partner who is
wise, and patient. Those.... are very rare indeed in the young.
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Consider Auden, one of the best ever to view our souls:

"Lullaby" by W.H. Auden

"Lay your sleeping head, my love,
Human on my faithless arm;
Time and fevers burn away
Individual beauty from
Thoughtful children, and the grave
Proves the child ephemeral:
But in my arms till break of day
Let the living creature lie,
Mortal, guilty, but to me
The entirely beautiful.

Soul and body have no bounds:
To lovers as they lie upon
Her tolerant enchanted slope
In their ordinary swoon,
Grave the vision Venus sends
Of supernatural sympathy,
Universal love and hope;
While an abstract insight wakes
Among the glaciers and the rocks
The hermit's carnal ecstasy.

Certainty, fidelity
On the stroke of midnight pass
Like vibrations of a bell
And fashionable madmen raise
Their pedantic boring cry:
Every farthing of the cost,
All the dreaded cards foretell,
Shall be paid, but from this night
Not a whisper, not a thought,
Not a kiss nor look be lost.

Beauty, midnight, vision dies:
Let the winds of dawn that blow
Softly round your dreaming head
Such a day of welcome show
Eye and knocking heart may bless,
Find our mortal world enough;
Noons of dryness find you fed
By the involuntary powers,
Nights of insult let you pass
Watched by every human love."

January 1937
(from my recent journals)